Not sure what to talk about? Ask her questions!

This is something I talk about a lot and for good reason. If you try escalating in any way before she’s comfortable with you, it’s going to hurt your chances.

Women don’t struggle for attention from guys so you chatting to her isn’t a big deal. If you go from “Hi, I’m Dave” to a photo of your naked body in 30 seconds, you’ve just put yourself in the ‘creep’ basket.

Instead, take your time. Chat casually with her and demonstrate that you’re a smart, funny and confident man. This is going to get her attention and separate you from the other guys vying for her attention.

Once you’ve established that comfort, it’s time to escalate. Try to avoid the common trap of staying in this phase. Just chatting with her for weeks at a time, having established comfort two hours in.

Go easy on the compliments

Snapchat is a form of social media, so you can expect her to always be looking her best. While it might be tempting to comment on how “fire” she looks in your story today, I wouldn’t recommend it.

There’s nothing inherently wrong with compliments, just be cautious with how easily you dish them out. If she’s waking up to a message from you every day saying how hot she looks, it isn’t as romantic as you might think.

If anything, you’re probably going to end up looking creepy and desperate, seeing no signs that she likes you. We both know that’s not true but she doesn’t. Not yet.

When you do compliment her, try to look beyond the aesthetic. She might look great but what else is going on in that photo? If she’s skydiving in Italy and all you can say is “you look amazing”, it’s time to read our article on the topic. It’s aptly named “How to compliment a woman without being a creep”.

This is a great tip for texting in general. It’s even better in Snapchat because you’ll be seeing photos and videos of her as well. Most photos will give you at least five things you can ask about.

Again, try to avoid focusing on how she looks. Rather than “you look great, have you been working out?”, think broader. Where is she? What’s she doing? Has she done it before? Does she do it regularly or was this a one-off? The list goes on.

The question itself doesn’t need to be mind-blowing. It’s just designed to start a conversation or change topic if things were getting dry.

A simple “your dog is so cute, what breed is it?” can take Affair Alert you both down a rabbit hole of conversation for hours. Most importantly, she loves her dog and is excited to talk about it so the conversation doesn’t feel like work.

No. Dick. Pics.

That’s all there is to this point. Unless she specifically asks for it (she won’t), it’s not okay. She won’t find it attractive, nor will she be turned on or impressed.

Dick pics are the whole reason photos are no longer an option in Tinder and Bumble. This is why we can’t have nice things.

Don’t ask for nudes

Similar to my previous point, don’t go asking her for nude photos. If she’s comfortable sending them to you, she’ll do it. If not, you asking won’t change her mind.

When discussing this with my female friends, their thoughts are always the same. A guy asking for nude photos immediately comes across as sleazy. Like the only reason he uses social media is to see naked women.